A Whole New World

RETURNING TO NEW NORMS AFTER A TWO-YEAR PANDEMIC!

WOW! I feel like Aladdin in his self-titled film. I am way out of my element as I enter the workforce and civilization after two years of being “sheltered”. Many of you have read about my COVID positive experience where I encountered a near-death encounter. Unlike some, the road to recovery has been a long and hard one.

After relearning how to walk and talk again, I thought the battle was almost over. As a dancer and singer, being able to sing a melody and do a small step were major victories for me. Those are things I never thought I would be able to do again. Although breathing was still short and my balance was still shakey, I was excited about the progress and just wanted to get back into the swing of things. I wasn’t ready for full-on routines nor could I sing a song without getting winded but at least I could take care of myself again. It’s such a blessing to be able to practice personal hygiene without assistance. It felt amazing to move without an oxygen tank attached to me. It felt incredible to go a few feet without an asthma attack or extreme exacerbations. Finally, life would go back to normal. Little did I know it was one of many phases.

The lingering phase that became a prominent issue was mental health. Dealing with PTSD from traumatic experiences from my hospital stay, to survivor’s remorse as I watched loved ones and strangers become memories. It was followed by the stages of grief that didn’t have an order but a relentless presence. I toggled between anger and sadness, full-on depression. It was paralyzing and left me suspended within a state. For those who understand coding and computer information systems, it was an “if-then” statement that looped without an “end if” present. Searching for a door, a way out, a symbol of hope until my faith in Christ embraced me and nursed me back to health. I also connected with a therapist who highlighted the fact that I was so resilient. This gave me the strength and confidence to continue on. This process took about a year and a half to recover from. You’re probably like okay, this is good getting better right? Well, king of. I still had a few physical lingering ailments that limited my ability to stand, sit and function normally. My lungs took a major hit and being an asthmatic didn’t make this a walk in the park. Walking a few feet was a challenge and I wondered how life would change. Eventually, I got healed, thank the Lord. I started regaining the full function of my limbs. It took two years! Yes, you read that correctly, it has been a full two years! I don’t regret a thing. God allowed me time to heal in various ways, catch my breath, and gain clarity in my vision. Being close to death will shift your perspective very quickly. I returned home with a new zeal to do something more than I have before but this time for myself.

During this time, finding work remotely seemed like the only option but that didn’t go in my favor. I got serious about blogging, moved, continued working hard in school (GO EAGLES), wrote a children’s book, started working on becoming a Certified Life Coach, started the process to become a Licensed Insurance Broker, and started my own business. I took care of my mental health and picked up both old and new hobbies. I aimed to be productive every day until something else worked in my favor. Finally, after two years and tons of applications, I get a job offer.

Change ahead sign

This new job came with minimum perks but required me to make a maximum sacrifice regarding my health and time. I was instructed to get vaccinated or failure to do so will discontinue this process. This scared me because of negative reviews and things I overheard some factual others not so much. I moved out of state, this meant traveling from one state to another with the risk of being exposed on public transportation to strangers and their germs. The subway? I have been home this entire time. I got adjusted to focusing on my own endeavors and doing it on my own time. I also got adjusted to what others would consider “cabin fever”. I barely traveled and when I did, I was in a private vehicle. I guess that made me a bit spoiled but now here I was, required to move around in a city I left but no longer understood.

Everything felt so new, so different and so strange. the subways were no longer crowded as it was before. I was aware that the crime rate increased tremendously so you can imagine how someone with anxiety would feel about this new experience. There are barely tellers available to ask for help and machines seem to be more prevalent. There were even new payment systems in place. Welcome to OMNY! Oh wow, those were the devices they were installing before the world got infected, how interesting. People were more skeptical than ever interacting with strangers who needed guidance or direction. Restaurants and common places like Dunkin Donuts no longer had seats, obvious hint to grab and go. Carbon footprint increased I see, everyone prefers Lyft and Uber as well as the comfort of their own vehicles. People I met who were so were apprehensive about handshakes and interaction. People finally gave each other space (six feet) in this crowded state which I seem to enjoy. Wow, I can go on so many changes, so many new norms.

An image of a road sign arrow old life – new life

People have been fighting to get things back to “normal” but the world as we knew it is officially over. We look at shows like the Jetson’s and even look at movies such as “WALL-E” and say hey that’s funny, so not reality or “that will never happen”. The funny thing is, it can very well become our reality. As things occur and we adapt, the major factor that remains is our dependence on smart devices and equipment. Robots are not the future, they are integrated now. Life from this point requires adjustment.

It is a whole new world, new rules of engagement, and a NEW lifestyle. What I learned from Aladdin is to just be yourself. Find ways to fit in our new society on my own. A new mentality and inner strength are required to address what is ahead. The only thing that will function amid dysfunction is faith in Christ. The road ahead is full of uncertainty, inquiries without direction, and much concern. People are desensitized to the needs of others, destruction, and even world events. Hearts have grown cold. Right now, Russia and Ukraine are feuding and only God knows what domino effect may occur. Bible talks about wars and rumors of wars and gives us prophetic insight as to what the last days would look like. If it’s not one thing it’s another and it’s affecting all of us. Without God, we will not make it. Wealth won’t help when struggles are psychological. Status won’t help when challenges are social and racial. The list goes on, I just want to encourage you that no matter what changes, God will never change on us, He will never leave or forsake us, we are not alone (Hebrews 3:15. He is consistent and faithful. Things feel new, but we serve a God who does all things new. Life with Him is an adventure. With Him, there is guidance, instruction, and direction. He is our G.P.S- God’s Positioning System. We will not be lost or confounded but be people who are wise, insightful, and focused. We must continue to make an impact in this world and share the gospel.

The only choice to thrive is by adapting!- Chrissy Renee

Like Aladdin, our destiny awaits amid what looks hopeless and void. Your entry into your next season requires authenticity. You may be scared but if you are granted a seat at the table, it’s because you belong there. Others will be charged with creating and building their own. Everything will be new. Aladdin, coming from an impoverished environment to a lavish one by taking risks. CONTINUE to trust God in your business and life decisions. Life can change in the blink of an eye and it will come with twists and turns without that “magic carpet ride” feeling but it will be okay. God wants to restore hope. People today are struggling with hopelessness but there is hope. There are yet rooms your name preceded your presence. The wealth of the wicked is laid up for you. Above all things, God’s desire for us is for us to prosper in every facet of our lives. (3 John 1:2). When things are new we tend to run or operate in fear and that’s completely normal behavior. However, we were given a disadvantage of favor and divine intervention. Embrace this whole new world, find your place, bring change, do your part, and watch God work on, in, and through you. Embrace all that’s new and evolve because sometimes the only way to thrive is to adapt.

Black Business & Professional Integrity

The face of entrepreneurship has dramatically changed. Statistically, today’s entrepreneur is fourteen percent female and almost twenty-nine percent represent a minority group. They make up a great portion of the United States GDP (Gross Domestic Product) which is the sum of businesses that add to the American economy. Talk about grit and determination. These groups were often underestimated in the past, but are making their mark as they impact and influence several markets.

Traditionally, people would attend a university and rack up thousands in fees or work a nine to five in hopes that their efforts are acknowledged and compensated. The ladder of success seemed to have been missing some steps making things incredibly difficult for people to reach the top without having assistance. If you pay attention, the million and billionaires who grace covers of magazines are getting younger and diversity, more prominent. Entrepreneurship is the preferred avenue to achieve ultimate life goals. Today, we are in an era of the “woke” generation. There is awareness about any and everything because the information is at our fingertips. Social Media, viral videos, innovative ideas, and technological creations have allowed many to attain wealth quickly. “Throw away the ladder, airlift me to the destination,” says the mindsets of Millennials and Gen Z’s. Hard work is still applauded but they abide by the concept of “Working smarter, not harder!”. If you’re going to do a job, do what you love. People today don’t want to be subjected to a system, ill-treatment (from superiors), or disappointed by unsatisfactory salaries. If you’re going to “go hard” let it be for something you are passionate about that’s ultimately beneficial.

Many are supporting black-owned businesses and other cultural groups to prove that they are not unconsciously biased and contribute to change. Many African Americans believe that supporting a black-owned organization or enterprise is the fulfillment of an Ancestors’ dream. Many would agree that supporting your own culture will …

  1. Keep finances in the community.
  2. Increase representation.
  3. Increases social pride.
  4. Create community staples.
  5. Decrease the negative stigma of poverty, lack, and ownership.

 Representation is imperative right now and everyone is rooting for their own culture to have visibility and awareness. Today, we are aware that being socially and environmentally responsible is preferred. Everything is for a cause or “for the culture” but what happens when a culture has been misrepresented, misconstrued, misbranded, misclassified, and experiences social self-sabotage?

Let’s address the neon elephant on the block. Being labeled a “black business” can potentially hinder growth. I believe that black-owned businesses are often misconstrued because there are so many ill notions concerning professionalism or the lack thereof. Black businesses are not supported by African Americans because many believe that their culture is riddled with a lack of quality, customer service, proper communication, consistency, integrity, and efficiency.

Unfortunately, many have encountered unfavorable experiences with such businesses. While some argue that they experience a lack of support. People of Color prefer to support other races to obtain quality partnerships and encounters. The complaints often expressed… are a mile long but it’s actually social self-sabotage. When someone black says “you know it’s going to be late, it’s a black-owned business”, it is a form of social self-sabotage. Many have lost all faith within their race to produce favorable outcomes. This diminishing of support destroys not just a particular business but the reputation of an entire race.

We all know integrity is doing the right thing when no one is looking. “Integrity is necessary, not an optional tool. it is an expression of love and passion for your business. This is the only way for your business to advance and succeed” says Anita from “Siomara’s Catering”. It’s not just doing the right thing but putting your best foot forward with good intentions. Many often associate branding with just colors and images that are presented on a public platform. What they fail to realize is, the true identity of your brand is YOUR character. Your core values, beliefs, ethics, and principles become evident in the brand. “What people say about you when you’re not in the room is your true brand identity,” says Brandon Monti of Connecticut. Your perspective will always creep into the culture and environment you create. What you represent as a person will transition and translate to what you present as a CEO.

The term “Black Excellence” is often a hot topic. African Americans love to use and overuse it to show support, pride, or approval. Vaughn Brandford of Brooklyn states that “I think most people are under the misconception of black excellence. Many utilize it as a shield to be subpar believing that they are exceptional by just mere existence. People believe that somehow it shields black people from discrimination and racism, which is a complete fallacy. We must understand, to be considered excellent, we must be excellent. Most of us won’t get a second chance at a first impression. If we know we’re representing more than just “us” then we should consider it in our presentation. The adjective “excellent” should be used without the “black” label. We should just strive to be amazing and successful owners who just happen to walk in excellence”.

Business Owners Tips to fight against statistics:

  1. Invest in professional development training.
  2. Hold others accountable.
  3. Acquire financial literacy and upgrade financial practices.
  4. Invest in software to remain organized and keep track of invoices and payments.
  5. Apply Ethics in everything.
  6. Vulnerability is a must! It’s not a crime to say “no”, “I’m unable to” or be honest about mistakes.
  7. Keep the bar of excellence high.
  8. Sensitivity training is highly preferred.
  9. Train staff on concepts of customer service and the power of a pleasant demeanor.
  10. Be reliable.
  11. Boost hospitality.
  12. Watch your tone.
  13. No compromise.
  14. Inferior service is not accepted!
  15. Develop a disdain for tardiness.
  16. DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT
  17. Contracts are your friend.
  18. Make realistic promises.
  19. Be open to key partnerships.
  20. Learn and teach conflict resolution.
  21. Particiality is unkind. Many will be pleasant to another race but disrespectful or rude to their own.
  22. It’s not a competition but it is a competition. You need a comparative advantage for a competitive market. However, do not compare yourself to anyone else other than yourself. Monopoly is a game to play at home. Some competition is healthy to push you.
  23. Don’t be afraid to share information and resources. Even if people immatate you, they will never be YOU. Your unique presence in a saturated market is still needed.
  24. Do not take clients’ funds without providing a product or service and then ignore them. Clients should not have to chase you.
  25. Communication is your friend!

These tips are not to criticize but to aid in the development and formation of your next level in business. Be encouraged. Find joy and pleasure in what wakes you up every day. When you are intentional about living, you can live on purpose, expressing purpose. Elizabeth, owner of the famous “Bizzy Bakery” in Brooklyn states that “It does my heart proud knowing I can brighten a day just by being myself. I love that God allows me to do what I love every single day. Being respectful is a MUST, but being a nice person is a CHOICE. I just happen to be one of the few where being nice comes naturally to me”. “Lizz” is a prime example of how personal brand affects professional branding. She is extremely jovial and easy to interact with. She is a woman of her word and truly finds delight in seeing her customers happy. Her sweet demeanor encourages potential clients to try her sweet treats.

Dr. Courtney M. Bradley states that “you may not have one hundred dollars, but you can show support in a hundred ways!” It should not take another social uproar or protest in the country to drive people to support each other. Here are some ways to show support and as well as some tips for engagement.

  1. Let go of entitlement. Do not expect “favors” and complimentary service due to familiarity.
  2. Share promotional material on social media to increase reach and visibility.
  3.  Purchase something without an argument or debate about the price. Their time, energy, and resources were invested in their work.
  4. Encourage someone by acknowledging their good work or practices.
  5. Believe in the vision, it’s not just about the individual.
  6. Encourage others to support.
  7. Speak well of the company, word of mouth is one method of organic growth.
  8. Make a payment on time but communicate in case of an emergency.
  9. Arguing and yelling at owners isn’t the most effective way to make a complaint.
  10. Respect their payment methods and rules.
  11. Ask how you can help or volunteer.

To those who are business owners, working hard to set a standard, I salute you. Thank you for your time, energy, sacrifice, sleepless nights, early mornings, creativity, and passion. Your labor is not in vain, many appreciate all that you do to make a client or organization happy. To every person of color fighting against these common misconceptions, keep going. You being your best self helps combat what is contrary. To every female striving for excellence as a “boss babe” thank you. You are creating a pattern for the next generation to follow. The future of ownership and the reputation of modern leadership is in your hands.

CHANGE & GROWTH

Heraclitus once said, “the only thing constant is change”.  I concur, change is a shift, a minute or drastic modification is an inevitable part of life. As the world turns on its axis, new generations shift cultures and the natural progression of life exists; it’s the same for personal growth.

Personal growth requires a growth mindset. The mentality that has no limitations. This type of person has a genuine love for learning, exhibits grit, sees problems as a challenge, and believes that abilities are not fixed. You can enhance anything and learn new skills.  Oftentimes people say the desire to change something that’s unfavorable but doesn’t have the right tools to make it happen. Change must be desired before it can be encouraged. An individual must have a strong conviction to alter some things whether internal or external. A true passion for growth and a need for development.

Don’t be afraid to evolve, its natural! – Chrissy Renee

The only way to grow is to change. If you don’t believe me, research life cycles. For instance, look at the butterfly or the developmental changes of a baby. We must understand that when we finally decided to be intentional about our lifestyle and its results, we must make some amendments. Adjustments first require.

  1. Made up mind
  2. Plan of action
  3. Daily routine
  4. Accountability partners
  5. Benchmarks
  6. Rewards
  7. Continuum of what is successful.

Once you have made up your mind and have made a cognitive shift, take the time to create a solid plan. We only fail because we fail in preparation. Design your course of action and have a bounce-back plan, not a backup plan. To create a backup plan, it’s subconsciously giving yourself an excuse to renege on your goal. Create a daily schedule to help you stay on track. Once you practice something day eventually it will become a habit. Once a habit is formed you can then develop a lifestyle that is your new nature.

Some things we cannot change on our own. This is a great time to locate some key partners for accountability. People that are firm, motivating, and encouraging to push you towards your desired destination. Within that journey you may get tired, question why you’re doing something, and attempt to give up. These individuals will help you realign your mentality on your journey.

Speaking of journeys, look at roads, highways, and bridges. There are significant markings on the path as you travel. There are signs and indications and instructions. Everything is purposed to keep you on target, within the right speed, safe, and provide directions. Along our journey to self-improvement and change, we need to set benchmarks. Make it clear, by this time, I would like to do “x” and highlight what tools, funds, people, deadlines, and important details to keep you on time and track.

When you get to a benchmark or have achieved something, please do yourself and favor and celebrate. Celebrate YOU, acknowledge your accomplishment, honor small victories, and take a moment to look at how far you have come. Don’t wait until you made a giant leap, keep yourself motivated by being proud of even the smallest steps. Reward yourself with a small gift, do something you’ve always wanted to do, or whatever reward is defined in your eyes.

When you have done a great job (mishaps and all) the only thing to do is to repeat the process. Work what is working. When you find it feasible do it on a broader scale. Let nothing stop you from achieving your dreams. Dreams can feel like a nightmare when they torment your mind unattained. I implore you to pursue passionately and don’t get distracted by negativity, failure, or lack of support. Whatever you put your mind to do, you can do it. That may sound like a cliché but why consider or dream at all if you don’t plan to make it a reality? If you’re reading this, just know someone is rooting for you, enjoy the journey!