“Spin Da Block”

“Spin Da Block” is an urban term or slang that refers to the act of returning, another attempt, or a second chance. Think of it as walking around an actual block in circles. You are not truly distant, you’re in the area just not authentically present.

After a door is closed sometimes it serves as a reminder to keep it that way. We are sometimes too lenient and grant access to those who should remain outdoors. Knowing your worth will cause you to be very intentional about every connection. It will enable you to set standards, create boundaries, and abide by them.

Ask yourself “What type of people do I want to engage in my life?”, “Who and what no longer serves me?”, “Are the people I am surrounded by positive?” the list can continue forever. After establishing where you would like to go in your life, it’s imperative to surround yourself with like-minded individuals and be mindful of having healthy relationships.

Recognizing your worth is only the initial stage, being proactive about investing in yourself is another. Daily, we are challenged to choose right and to choose better than we did yesterday. Your emotional well-being and safety should be paramount on our lists.

When someone you were once romantic with or attracted to attempts to “spin da block” we often ask ourselves “What is it that this person wants THIS time”, insinuating that there was a level of engagement that had ended. Sometimes people enter a certain chapter of their lives and like to leave bookmarks. They “ghost” you or “leave you hanging”, wondering if you did something wrong or questioning what happened.

These types of individuals are great manipulators and often are masters of breadcrumbing and gaslighting. They like leaving a bookmark so they can pick up exactly where they left off with you. This prevents you from moving on to your next chapter. If they hold a key to your heart, this can be troubling and challenging. Some of us haven’t changed the locks to our hearts so they come and go as they please. We as humanity have to know when it’s time for a change. Let people circle all they want even to linger in front of your home but you do not have to answer.

Do that upgrade to your home (self), invest, pursue, expand, and broaden your horizons. When people are inside, they get comfortable and take advantage of the access but as soon as they are no longer permitted and see that enhancements are being made, they come running back and don’t allow it. Recognize that this is a game for most.

This doesn’t just apply to romantic connections; but to friends and other people who have displayed a toxic track record. You know the saying “When people show you who they are, believe them!”. Don’t just guard your heart (Bible) guard the entry and access points too. Sau “Yes!” to our best selves and say “No!” to all things and people contrary. Then you can make room for growth, development, inspiration, and ability to thrive. Remove that old bookmark and let the next chapter begin!

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When someone you were once romantic with or attracted to returns in your life.